Do You Stay or Do You Go? How to Make the Right Decision When You're Feeling Stuck

Have you got a big decision to make and feel yourself going back and forth overthinking it? 

Are you tossing up whether to leave your job or stick it out a little longer? Two options on the table and can’t decide? Or not sure whether to go ‘all in’ with your side-biz?

Oh, have I been there! I’d invite you to try these out for size, simple yet actually incredibly effective.

  1. Think big

Before you start analysing the ins and outs of the situation, ask yourself what your long term, absolutely-kick-ass-ideal-situation would be? Park the fears and doubts for a second. If you could dream up and design your perfect life and career, what would it look like? 

Now ask, which decision is going to best set you up for heading in that direction? 

2. Consult the gut. 

This might seem like an obvious one but hear me out for a second. When you think of the decision you’re going to make, what do you FEEL not just in your gut but your entire body? We know that fear and excitement can foster themselves in your body in a similar way. So how do you know if the feeling is anxiety or excitement?

Try this…

When you think of the decision, do you feel a sense of expansiveness and lightness? Or do you feel a slight ‘constrictiveness’ or tightness and heaviness in the chest? Because so many of our bodily mechanisms are part of our unconscious system, it can often tell us sneaky little intuitive tips that our brain just can’t help us with.

3.    Worst Case Scenario. 

What’s the worth possible thing that could happen as a result of you moving ahead with the decision? Can you deal with it? What would you do if that worst thing happened?

HINT: Write it down. Step it out. Will anyone die? If not, you can probably deal with the repercussions no matter how bad it gets. What doesn’t kill you…

4.    BEST case scenario. 

My favourite quote: “What if I fall? My dear, what if you fly?” (Erin Hanson). Now that you’ve freaked yourself out with how it could all go wrong and given yourself mild anxiety, now I want you to think about how it could all go incredibly right. What are some of the best things you could achieve by saying ‘yes’? What would the absolute ultimate case scenario look like?

5.    Take a baby step.

Another favourite of mine. Everything can be achieved in baby steps. How do you eat an elephant? One bite at a time. Is there a way that you can get more information on the decision you’re tossing up? Could you take one of the options for a test drive in any way?

If you’re looking at a new job, could you chat to someone doing a similar role? Could you take a course in the field you’re considering to move into? Could you take on a test project? Ask what your first day, week and 30 days in the role would look like. If the new company doesn’t know, then make sure they find out.

If you’re thinking about whether to go ALL IN on your new business, a baby step could include going part time on your current job before full time. A very smart, and recommended idea for those starting out in new businesses for the first time! 

Baby steps are the best steps in my books. Because baby steps turn into bigger steps and before you know it, you’re striding. They create that momentum. When you’ve got the momentum, nothing can get in your way.

Try these tips out for size next time you have a big decision to make. 

still feeling stuck?

If you’re still feeling unsure, then you can take this Quiz.

It gives you clarity on whether you have found your ‘'Thing” - your true passion and purpose. Or whether you’re skating along doing what’s easiest or what’s expected of you.

Want to find out? Take the Quiz HERE.

How Side-Hustle Coach, Ruby Lee, found her ‘Thing’ (and at exactly the right time)!

How Side-Hustle Coach, Ruby Lee, found her ‘Thing’ (and at exactly the right time)!

Ruby has been a coach of mine for quite a few months now and is not only a constant source of inspiration, positive energy and light but also a productivity machine!

This is someone on a mission.

This is someone who has found her path.

This is someone absolutely in her element.

But she wasn’t always here. Find out how she found her thing and brought it to life.

How Life Coach, Amelia Harvey Found her Thing & Brought it to Life

Life Coach, Amelia Harvey encourages women to be their best by helping them create a life that feels great for them. 

I had the awesome honour of chatting to good friend and incredible Life Coach, Amelia, about how she found her Thing and transformed it into a flourishing, soul-aligned life coaching business helping so many women around the world.

 Where it started… 

Amelia has always been interested in the human mind, studying Psychology at uni. After completing her Honours degree, she started studying to become a doctor, but realised she hated being chained to books and the rules of the uni curriculum. 

Along side her study, she was working but had zero interest in moving up the ranks. She notes, “I was exhausted… and didn’t feel I was living up to my potential. I wasn’t pushing myself.” 

In these areas where passion was lacking, studying coaching felt different. She realised she “had all the time in the world for it”. Plus, she believed in a more holistic approach to health.

This self-reflection led to her knowing she should follow her intuition.

Compare then to now…

“It feels good, it feels right, I never have problems getting motivated, I’m so excited about the business and its potential – I think about it 24/7. It feels so good, and comes naturally.”

How did she do it?

Amelia shares 7 tips for how she found & pursued her ‘Thing’ and how you can too:

1.    Get meditating. “I practiced letting thoughts be and re-connecting. The intuition whispers while the mind yells through a megaphone.”

2.    Try a different space. “I went to Bali for a few months, as a spiritual retreat.” Amelia used this time in a different physical space for self reflection. 

3.    Devour books & podcasts. Amelia absorbed all she could in goal-setting and manifesting, “I thought maybe there is a different way – maybe I could write one [a blog] myself! I listened to Marie Forleo, School of Greatness, and Mel Ambrossini.” 

4.    Hire a coach to help. Amelia shares that a game-changer for her was getting her mindset right and figuring out her limiting beliefs. Amelia said a coach helped call her out on a belief that, “You can’t make money doing what you love.” 

5.    Use a sounding board. Amelia shared that her partner helped a lot. “Trav sees me really clearly. He’d say, ‘If you want to do something, just do it.’ He had full belief in me.”

6.    Do the thing you enjoy. Amelia says, “Follow your interests, whatever they are… start a blog, exercise… no matter what it is, make time to do the things you love. Be in that flow you love. Be in nature, and with the things you connect with. Rather than looking for your purpose, look for what feels good, what excites you, when you get into flow. Look for clues.”

7.    Keep choosing your choice. I love this one. Amelia shares, “Once you’ve chosen what you want to do, get focused, don’t keep looking onto what’s next. It takes time to figure out what you want. Keep plugging into what is exciting, don’t be distracted by bright shiny things.” 

Now that Amelia has found her thing, she loves what she does. She follows her energy and works the way that she wants to. 

She has created a thriving business and… ready to hear some amazing news? If you’re searching for your Thing, take Amelia’s number one tip and turn up the volume on those whispers of intuition with her meditation app launching early 2019. I can’t wait try it!

Where can you soak up more of this beauty’s wisdom? Visit Amelia’s website for freebies to help you be your best or join her Inner Peace Party Facebook tribe for regular live videos + meditation tips. 

Haven’t found your thing yet? 

I have just the thing for you! My FREE video Masterclass will give you clarity on that thing you were made for. That thing that makes you come alive: 5 Steps to Find Your Thing.

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