Do You Stay or Do You Go? How to Make the Right Decision When You're Feeling Stuck

Have you got a big decision to make and feel yourself going back and forth overthinking it? 

Are you tossing up whether to leave your job or stick it out a little longer? Two options on the table and can’t decide? Or not sure whether to go ‘all in’ with your side-biz?

Oh, have I been there! I’d invite you to try these out for size, simple yet actually incredibly effective.

  1. Think big

Before you start analysing the ins and outs of the situation, ask yourself what your long term, absolutely-kick-ass-ideal-situation would be? Park the fears and doubts for a second. If you could dream up and design your perfect life and career, what would it look like? 

Now ask, which decision is going to best set you up for heading in that direction? 

2. Consult the gut. 

This might seem like an obvious one but hear me out for a second. When you think of the decision you’re going to make, what do you FEEL not just in your gut but your entire body? We know that fear and excitement can foster themselves in your body in a similar way. So how do you know if the feeling is anxiety or excitement?

Try this…

When you think of the decision, do you feel a sense of expansiveness and lightness? Or do you feel a slight ‘constrictiveness’ or tightness and heaviness in the chest? Because so many of our bodily mechanisms are part of our unconscious system, it can often tell us sneaky little intuitive tips that our brain just can’t help us with.

3.    Worst Case Scenario. 

What’s the worth possible thing that could happen as a result of you moving ahead with the decision? Can you deal with it? What would you do if that worst thing happened?

HINT: Write it down. Step it out. Will anyone die? If not, you can probably deal with the repercussions no matter how bad it gets. What doesn’t kill you…

4.    BEST case scenario. 

My favourite quote: “What if I fall? My dear, what if you fly?” (Erin Hanson). Now that you’ve freaked yourself out with how it could all go wrong and given yourself mild anxiety, now I want you to think about how it could all go incredibly right. What are some of the best things you could achieve by saying ‘yes’? What would the absolute ultimate case scenario look like?

5.    Take a baby step.

Another favourite of mine. Everything can be achieved in baby steps. How do you eat an elephant? One bite at a time. Is there a way that you can get more information on the decision you’re tossing up? Could you take one of the options for a test drive in any way?

If you’re looking at a new job, could you chat to someone doing a similar role? Could you take a course in the field you’re considering to move into? Could you take on a test project? Ask what your first day, week and 30 days in the role would look like. If the new company doesn’t know, then make sure they find out.

If you’re thinking about whether to go ALL IN on your new business, a baby step could include going part time on your current job before full time. A very smart, and recommended idea for those starting out in new businesses for the first time! 

Baby steps are the best steps in my books. Because baby steps turn into bigger steps and before you know it, you’re striding. They create that momentum. When you’ve got the momentum, nothing can get in your way.

Try these tips out for size next time you have a big decision to make. 

still feeling stuck?

If you’re still feeling unsure, then you can take this Quiz.

It gives you clarity on whether you have found your ‘'Thing” - your true passion and purpose. Or whether you’re skating along doing what’s easiest or what’s expected of you.

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